Inspired by a good friend of mine, who also helped me realized so many things while still in my journey, I finally came up with some habits which guided me to be a better version of myself. Here are some of my favorites:
1. Be careful in choosing your social circle. Researchers report that maintaining healthy social networks can help you live up to 50% longer. Surround yourself with people who are in love with life and in love with lifting and supporting others’ lives for everyone’s good. You don’t need a thousand of followers or believers, you need people who will help you be a better version of yourself.
2. Prioritize your happiness and peace.
3. Having a healthy lifestyle doesn’t mean shifting your diet to healthy supplements. Eat healthy foods, there is no ‘magic pill’ that can make up for an unhealthy diet or lack of fitness, and some studies find that supplement combinations increase risk of a stroke. Also, aside from it is cheaper to buy raw healthy foods, it is also healthier. Take for example, garlic which is cheaper in public market compared to garlic supplements in a pharmacy store. Also, avoid overeating, be physically active, as much as possible avoid cigarettes and alcohol and when it’s time to rest, SLEEP.
4. Avoid chronic stress and anxiety. A lot of studies already proved that anxiety and stress may significantly decrease your lifespan.
5. Practice gratitude.
6.Unlock the power of contentment. That doesn’t mean you don’t have goals for the future or that you aren’t working toward being a better person tomorrow than you are today. And it definitely doesn’t mean that you’re stagnant or that you’re choosing to sit around and do nothing new, exciting and challenging with your life. It just means that you develop a peace about your life and a sincere enjoyment about what you have today without basing all your happiness on what you hope to achieve tomorrow.
7. Don’t compare your life to everyone else’s highlight reel. Are you ready for our most shocking observation yet? Social media doesn’t always reflect reality. Oh, YES! (we are aware that you might know this, but have you ever really thought about it?)It’s usually not the complete picture of someone’s life—it’s just the highlight reel. We’re spending all this money and emotional energy just to keep up with a life we think everyone else is living and we’re missing out on. And that is ruining not only our mental health, but our financial security as well. Once you take your focus off of them and put it back on your own life, you can start to turn things around with your life and money.
8. Focus on your strengths. You can be humble and still recognize your strengths, talents and accomplishments. You don’t have to beat yourself up to be humble. In fact, that’s a pretty unhealthy approach, and it’s one of the biggest dangers of comparison living. The more we compare ourselves to others, the worse we feel about ourselves. That’s a dangerous trap we’ve got to avoid.
9. Celebrate other people. Constantly comparing ourselves to others leads to us not cheering on the people who are working hard to get somewhere. And it makes it hard to celebrate with the ones who’ve accomplished something! So, here’s my challenge to you: When a friend tells you about her new job, be happy for her. If someone buys a new house, take part in their enthusiasm. If someone shares some great news with you, keep the focus on them instead of turning it back to yourself. Find big and small ways to celebrate other people’s accomplishments!
10. Learn to compete with yourself instead of others. Instead of focusing on where you are compared to others, focus on your own goals. Where are you compared to where you were at this time last year? Or 2 years ago?
11. Have boundaries around how much time you spend on social media. If you are not a seller and not using social media as a tool to make a living, might as well avoid too much social media. There’s no need to constantly update your life events unless you are doing that for business purposes or job requirements. As we’ve been talking about, comparison through social media can have a massive effect on our mental well-being.
Here are some boundaries you can put in place to protect yourself:
You can unfollow any accounts that tend to make you feel bad about yourself. Set a schedule and allow yourself to scroll for 20-30 minutes. When time is up, step away from social media.
It’s almost impossible to be satisfied with your own life if you’re constantly looking at what someone else has. If you’re struggling to appreciate the blessings in your life, and if you’re constantly distracted by the #blessings of other people, it may be time to put some serious blinders on for a little while. So, here’s a challenge for you: Shut off all the social networks. And while you’re at it, unsubscribe from all those newsletters that show you how much you’re “missing.” that time and energy focusing on how much you truly have. Look at your family, your friends, your home, your job, and all the things in your life that really matter.
12. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others Anymore. Focus on the quality of your life, not the quantity of your likes. Keeping up with everything couldn’t be the motivation behind why you do anything—on social media or otherwise. Stressing over likes will cause you to spend time, effort and money for approval you don’t need.
Lastly, I know comparison will always be a struggle—for me just as much as anyone! But we don’t belong to other people who like our pictures. We belong to a God who loves us.